Late Night Journal Entry: Feminine Feminism

    This will be short, but before you read, just remember that I am open to new ideas. So if you disagree with anything I say or have a different opinion, just let me know <3

        Something has been really bothering me lately. Its something that has been up in conversation a lot. Something that I see daily. Something I hear daily. That something is the dislike of children and the repulsion of marriage. 

       It seems like SOOOOO many 16-30 year olds are so against the both of these ideas! Almost to the point where it seems like its a trend to think this way. 

We must live for ourselves and if we do anything other than that we are just a victim of society. But romantic relationships are okay because I mean, we need sex! But as long as there is no legal commitment involved. What if you change? What if you want to go off and experiment? What if your partner get boring or you fall out of love?? And children??? There are so many children already in the world that are suffering, you don't need to bring another one into it. It sucks and is dangerous anyways. Plus there is almost a guarantee that they will be messed up. They are expensive and minimum wage is just too low. Sound about right?

      And I, myself,  used to DESPISE the idea of marriage and children. It scared me. Plus its just society telling me that I should right?? It's just religion shoving this idea of what the role of a woman "should" look like! I used to believe that if a girl got married and had children (especially young) that she was just weak. I mean what a waste of a brain! What a waste of a life! What about a career? What about traveling? What about education!? 

Then something clicked in my head recently.. why can't us as women have both? 

     Another  topic that has been brought up in conversation a lot lately and so naturally on my mind. Again it seems to be almost a trend to call one's self a feminist. (not saying its a bad thing!! I consider myself one!) 

I just want to set the record straight on what I feel and think regarding "feminism". 

Okay so first what does it even mean? According to dictionary.com it's 'The advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.' So the word feminism is a term about the rights of a woman. Perfect! I am all for this! But I feel like people are mixing up having the same rights as men with acting like men. I think women ROCK! I mean, I am one. hahah And I love being one.  I am ALL for careers and being extremely successful.  I fully intend on taking this world by the clothespins and shaking it up fiercely.  

     I am against social sexualization and exploitation of women. It seems to me that this is getting to be more and more of an issue. . I am against the watching of porn for that very reason. IT LEADS TO JUST THAT!!! Girls that are entering adulthood seem to have less and less self-worth. And the men seem to be more and more sex oriented. It so sad to me and scary!! It has affected me in ways I cannot express here in this blog. It destroyed me. It crushed me. But I am for redefining one's self over and over again. I am for equal opportunity and equal pay. I am for the right to abortion and gay marriage.  

    I am also for marriage. I am for families. I am for children and lots of them. I am for love and tenderness. I am for kindness. For hope. For soft hearts and loving words. For snuggling and soft skin. For sad tears and happy ones too. I am for emotion. For smiles and playful teasing. For hugs and kisses. For lace and flowers and hearts. For playing dress up and having fun with makeup. I am for painted nails and long bubble baths and cheesy love songs. For freshly baked cookies when the kids get home from school and for notes on napkins in lunches. I am for love! For self worth and strength. For hard work. For being brave through the hard times and laughing through the good ones.  

Again. I am for Marriage and Children!! 

    What an amazing power us as women have! We have the ability to create! The one thing that men will NEVER be able to have! And yet somehow the notion of not having children is expressing one's feminism? Wouldn't that be the opposite I believe having children is the most feminist thing any woman can do!! I think about my mom and I am amazed. But that wasn't always how I viewed her. I hate admitting this more than anything, but I used to find my mom weak. She has so many talents that it seemed like she just gave up on! Art, music, dance. She has such a creative mind and it just seemed like she didn't care! She dropped out of college to support my dad. It seemed so unfair! I was so confused on why she would do that. Then I realized something.

       What's more creative than to create life? 

And when it comes to the talents that my mom has, I don't know how I didn't see this before, but she has touched more lives being a wife and mother than she would have EVER if she would have pursued a career in one specific field. Sing us kids to sleep. All the arts and crafts growing up. Dancing around like a fool. Every person that she meets she leaves them stronger and happier. And education? My mom is (with out any personal bias) the most intelligent woman I have ever met. 

I guess what I mean by all of this is that nothing in this life is as fulfilling or as beautiful than loving someone purely and with no expectation. To serve others and to live a life full of kindness. Marriage and children can provide this.

I am for Women.

I am for Feminism.

I am for Feminine Feminism.